We’ve all been there. Trying to convince our hubbies to adhere to whatever dress code or colour scheme we’ve spent hours working on. The napkins and the placemats, the details in your jewellery all the way through to the colour of your shoes. The likelihood is that you’ve spent a significant amount of time researching, planning and envisioning your wedding, but is it really an issue if your groom wants to wear something a little left of centre on your special day?
Well ladies, although he may not have shown much interest in the decision making process for the location, venue, photographer, videographer, colour scheme, decorations etc. he does need to have one decision that should always remain his own – his attire on the day. Not only that, but also the attire of his groomsmen. So yes, if he wants to wear something bright, funny or even a little bit silly – we’ve got to just let him do it! Have faith that whatever he chooses will represent his personality and the way in which he wants to remember the day.
A wedding day is about much more than a bride, but rather about a couple and two families coming together to create a new family of their own. It’s important to take a step back and remember that even though he may not show it in the same way that you choose to, he cares about this day just as much as you.
I once read that the two most important factors to an everlasting marriage were sacrifice and tolerance. Not particularly romantic, but relevant all the same. You’re about to marry the man of your dreams, and it shouldn’t matter if he’s in black, white, blue or even if he’s butt-naked (although I’m not too sure your father will still be so keen on him).
Men are just wired differently. They don’t stress about the little things, they see the bigger picture and they know exactly why they are standing there at the end of the aisle for you. Regardless of whatever silly outfit they’ve chosen.
So, that whole ‘everlasting marriage’ theory? I’m positive that they forgot one key factor after all – laughter.
Yes, you heard correctly. I said hairspray. Don’t get me wrong, make-up is a super important factor of your wedding day preparations, but hair can make or break it. Are you after curls? Straight? Wavy? Seems like a pretty simple decision to make… or is it?
Your hair will completely frame every photograph of your day (and will also be shown to every single human being that enters your parents home). So, do you want to prepare for the worst so that no matter what you look a-mazing? Or are you going to be that bride who pulls out her wedding album only to have her children remark that your hairstyle is ‘The Rachel’ of their generation?
Do you want to be the bride that forgot the hairspray? Didn’t think so.
Curly or straight? Fringe or no fringe? Frizz is universal so there is no point denying that that will become a problem, but how do you manage it?
How you decide to wear your hair on your wedding day will most likely depend on the time of year that you choose to have your wedding. This will be a major factor in your decision as it greatly determines the enemies you will meet throughout the day. Summer is going to be humid, Winter most likely raining and windy, Spring and Autumn could really go anywhere and if you live in Melbourne you will be fully aware that trying to predict the weather on any chosen day is an extremely pointless activity. If you’ve both decided on a wedding abroad, remember that Bali, Thailand and Fiji are all amazing locations. But, they are also very hot and humid and although girls love the curls, they do not like humidity people. A friend of mine who tied-the-knot in Bali had her hair in a beautiful up-do, simply because she knew that her long curled hair would drop as she was walking down the aisle. It’s for this exact reason that a majority of the hairstyles you will see for weddings abroad will be in a traditional up-do.
Not tying the knot in a foreign country? Well, the odds are in your favour. Below is a snapshot of just what you need to remember for your ideal style.
Straight: Bring the GHD. I know that they tell you it’s a silly idea and no one will need it, but wait until you’ve been standing in the wind or heat for a few hours. No one wants to look like they’ve had a helium balloon attached to their head for the better part of the day. On a serious note: Straightening serum. God’s gift to unruly hair.
Curly: Hairspray. I don’t really need to write anything else for you, because all you need to know is hairspray. Not the kind that freezes your hair stiff – the kind that leaves your hair bouncy and light. Hairspray. Go on, write it down.
Boho/Beach Chic: It goes without saying that if you don’t really use any of these words to describe your current mane, it’s probably not worth a try. We should really just reserve this style for down-to-earth supermodels that could attend their wedding after a 5-hour gym workout and still look amazing. Or mermaids, we can reserve it for mermaids too.
Up-Style: Traditional, elegant and low-maintenance. Well, unless you’ve got the frizz. In which case, hairspray. And no, gel is not an adequate substitute.
Now that we’ve covered that, just a few last unspoken rules for you to remember. No attending a hairdresser for a new ‘do’ a week before the wedding. As refreshing and exciting as it sounds, that story never ends well. No highlights, no low-lights and especially no drunken hens nights where coloured hair chalk is involved no matter how pretty it looks. Period.
Oh and hairspray. Don’t forget the hairspray.
What’s the very first thing you picture when someone tells you they’re engaged? Go on. Close your eyes, have a good think. Yep, you’ve got it. Right there. The rock, the sparkle, the carats – the diamond. But just how important is the stone that you choose to wear for the rest of your life?
Well, I’ll give you this – it’s certainly an important factor in the relationship but it is not the end-game; and by game I mean a devoted dedicated and loving husband who worships every minute that he spends with you. Now that is worth 10 times more than any diamond on your finger. Today, brides-to-be have several alternatives that you can opt for instead of a diamond that wont break the bank. Moissanites, for example are a natural clear durable stone that is often treated in labs to brighten (whiten) the stone. Next on the list would be white sapphires, a natural gem found in locations around the world, along with the newer and more affordable ‘Asha Diamonds.’ These man-made stimulants are produced in laboratories and are similar to the look of a CZ. However, it is worth noting that an Asha tends to eventually lose its sparkle as they are more of a temporary stone than their alternative counterparts.
If you want to stand out from the crowd, there is always the option of a coloured stone instead. There are so many choices available, especially when considering sapphires. The colours available vary significantly and there’s no shortage of gems to choose from. Better yet, due to the significant price difference, you know that you’ll be able to choose something as big and beautiful as you’ve always dreamed of. A very popular option has recently come to light in the shape of a Morganite. This pairs beautifully with rose gold and has seen quite a surge over the last few years. If that doesn’t impress the anarchist in you, there are always raw, uncut stones and diamonds that you can have placed in a setting of your choice. Not only are many of these options rare and unique, they are almost always ethically sourced and rebel against the industry of ‘blood diamonds.’
So, what I hope you can gather from reading this, is that having a ring and a diamond is a promise – but it shouldn’t matter how big, what colour and whether there are any inclusions within the stone or whether it was even a diamond to begin with. Simply, all that matters is who the gentleman on his knee is and that he’s promising to dedicate the rest of his life to making you happy.
Caitlin and Chris grew up in the Victorian country town of Wycheproof and so of course knew of each other well, but it was not until year 9 that they really became friends and by year 12 they were stepping out together. But young love is fickle and the couple went their separate ways. It wasn’t until four years later that they reconnected at the Wycheproof races. Caitlin immediately noticed Chris looking pretty spiffy in his suit and strolled over to check him out up close.
They started chatting about old times and continued their conversation with drinks and dinner at the Terminus Hotel. Caitlin was studying at university in Melbourne and Chris had moved to Geelong, but the spark of romance had been reignited…
They spent the next two years travelling between Geelong and later Bendigo for Chris’s work, Melbourne and Wycheproof, wearing out two cars and boosting the profits of their telecommunications company before finally settling together in Ballarat in 2009.
In November 2012, Chris decided the time was right to ask the lovely Caitlin to be his wife. He set about planning the perfect proposal. They had already arranged a holiday to Fiji so Chris decided this would be the ideal location. Caitlin had booked accommodation for five days, but Chris told her that they should stay an extra two days somewhere on the island. Chris had in fact secretly booked accommodation but on the fifth day Caitlin was, by her own admission, getting a little bit anxious about where exactly they were going to stay that night.
Chris told her he had it all in hand and asked her to follow him. They walked out to the golf course and boarded a buggy which to Caitlin’s utter amazement ferried them to a helicopter! Believing that Chris had booked it all last minute, she mused that this was not going to be cheap. The helicopter took them to a beautiful island where they received a warm welcome from the staff and Chris pointed out the magnificent over water huts.
Caitlin ignored him. She was quietly fuming about this extravagance and Chris blowing their holiday budget. But Chris was not to be deterred by the obvious disapproval of his lovely girlfriend and stuck to his original plan.
Arriving at the huts Caitlin begrudgingly admitted that they were amazing and joined him for a glass of champagne. As she began to unwind and relax, Chris produced a ring, got down on bended knee and asked Caitlin to marry him.
A lot of crying followed, before Caitlin finally said yes, of course.
Caitlin and Chris chose the magnificent Sault as the location to exchange vows and share their wedding day with family and friends.
Gabi & Ilan first met each other in 2011 and a brief romance shortly followed. However, this part of their love story was over just as quickly as it began, as Gabi says, “Clearly he didn’t know what he was missing out on.”
It was only in October, 2012 that their paths crossed again. Ilan had just returned from an overseas holiday and both Gabi & Ilan had endured numerous suggestions from mutual friends that they should date each other. Gabi was persistent that she wouldn’t meet Ilan again, but decided that she would go on one last date, and as she puts it, “just so I could have the last say this time. That didn’t happen. I’m having lots of last sayings now!” She said.
Well, their love story didn’t end there. In March of 2013, Ilan picked Gabi up early in the morning for a day trip to Williamstown. Their favourite movie to watch together is Madagascar, so Ilan surprised Gabi with a seaplane ride. After they had landed, there was a box wrapped in pink paper and ribbon waiting for Gabi to open. Inside of the box, was a human sized King Julien cut out, with the quote ‘The excitement is giving me the tingles! Marry me?’ on the bottom. Gabi was so overwhelmed with excitement and happiness that she actually forgot to tell Ilan her answer. Even the pilot exclaimed, “So?! What do you say??”
With a Jewish ceremony held at a beautiful private residence and a reception held at the Palladium Ballroom at Crown Casino, the day was sure to be a spectacular one. Guests were treated to an incredible menu featuring Sweet Chilli Chicken, Thyme Chicken and Scotch Fillet for mains. Gabi had selected a Collezione Bridal Couture dress that was custom made to Gabi’s requests from scratch. Gabi had only tried her dress on two weeks prior to the wedding, but thankfully could not have been happier with the end result. To add a special touch to the day, Gabi’s mother made a long mantilla veil especially for her, which made for beautiful photographs. To compliment her exquisite dress, Gabi chose a peach/champagne coloured fabric along with a dress design so that the bridesmaids outfits could be made, she recalls “I knew the dresses would look gorgeous on the wedding day when everything had come together – and they did! Especially for a summer wedding.”
As an orthodox Jewish couple, Gabi and Ilan did not have any contact with each other for a week before the wedding. When the moment to see each other arrived at the bedeken, both the bride and groom were overwhelmed with happiness and certainly agree that this was the highlight of their day.
Mike was holidaying in Australia several years ago, enjoying a 5-day break from England. It was only on his last day in Melbourne however, that his life would completely change. Three hours before he needed to be at the airport, a mutual friend introduced Mike to Alison. It was this introduction that ignited an 18-month long-distance relationship, until Mike would move to Australia so they could be together.
As unique as they come, Mike proposed to Alison when she travelled to Johannesburg to meet Mike’s family for Rosh Hashanah. He surprised her by taking her to the Pilanesburg region of South Africa and proposed at the top of the Kings Tower at the Palace of the Lost City.
Fast forward to today and Alison & Mike are now reminiscing about their magical Jewish wedding. The couple planned a beautiful Jewish ceremony and reception in the Harbour Room at The Royal Melbourne Yacht Squadron in St Kilda. The bride wore a stunning Raffaele Ciuca dress with a lace bodice, chiffon bottom and Swarovski crystals on the side. Alison chose to let her bridesmaids select their own dresses in various shades of purple & grey.
The couple enjoyed traditional Jewish music for their ceremony and selected Michael Buble’s ‘You’re My Everything’ for their first dance together as husband & wife.
The spectacular menu featured alternating Eye Fillet Steak and Roasted Garfish. As Alison & Mike are both sweet tooths, they selected Chocolate Self-Saucing Puddings for dessert!
When asked of her favourite moment, Alison confessed that the highlight would always be the family and friends that travelled from across the world to share in their special day. If she were to pick a particular moment in time, Alison spoke of remembering the moment that they were declared husband and wife under the Chuppa, “It was a very special moment for both of us.”
Many Melbourne brides are often faced with the dilemma of choosing between their dream ceremony location or being practical about the chances of a bad weather on their wedding day. Brides have woken up to extreme winds & torrential rain, only to have to resort to a back-up plan that is usually not as idyllic as they had originally hoped. You can do all the research in the world, read the predictions for one, two and often three months ahead. But let’s face it, this is Melbourne and the only predictable thing is that the weather will be completely unpredictable.
So how do we ensure that we don’t end up with a B-grade option if the weather turns out to be less pleasant than you had hoped? Plan ahead. You can still have a beautiful wedding ceremony on the beach, but think about hiring a marquee to provide some shelter. This way, the setting is still beautiful and a little bit of drizzle never did anyone any harm. In the event that gale-force winds decide to pay Melbourne a visit, you’re in a bit of a pickle. Ensure that the location of your ceremony also has a venue that has the capacity to seat all of your guests and can accommodate such a request on the day. Base your decision for the location based on the available alternative options that you have should the weatherman get it wrong.
Most beach locations will have a venue that overlooks the water, so a back-up plan is usually always available. Gardens will nearly always have multiple locations for events, as they will usually be on an estate that will consist of a large house as well as a chapel. All you need to remember when selecting the location for your wedding ceremony is to ensure that there is always a back-up plan. Not only that, but one that you’re just as happy with.
You may not be one of those couples who like to ‘match’ every time that you step out of the house, but isn’t it sweet when the bride & groom complement each other?
We’re not talking extremely obvious, colour co-ordinated looks – simply something subtle that flatters both parties and looks great in your wedding photos. So how do you achieve this without appearing to be a little cuckoo? Easy!
The most common way of ensuring that the bride and groom complement each other is to match the lapels to the bouquet. This is the most subtle, least-obvious way of tying everything together for your wedding photographs. Of course there have been much more obvious ways, often in the form of grooms wearing ivory coloured suits or ivory coloured ties.
You’re allowed to think outside the box here. If there is a specific theme or look that you’re going for, why not? Remember that the photographs you create on your special day are going to be with you forever then there’s no harm in having a little fun with it. Why not have your partner share in your ‘something blue’ for the day? Or why not wear similar shoes that no one will be expecting?
There are so many unique ways to make sure your groom is easily recognisable on your wedding day, so take advantage of the opportunity to make things as fun and exciting as possible!
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We all get a little emotional when thinking about our wedding day, but what happens on the actual day? Most brides never think about this until the very last moments, when the tears of happiness begin to flow. And everything seems perfect. Until you realise that you can’t stop crying and those tears turn to waterfalls. Are you wearing waterproof mascara? You wipe your hands across your face and see foundation residue on your hand. If my makeup is on my hand, then it’s not on my face. Wait, my makeup is not on my face?
It’s too late for a mirror check and your partner wouldn’t dare to answer your questions in fear of saying the wrong thing. And there’s your wedding photographer, taking photographs of you with your makeup smeared. What a memory.
But never fear, we’ve got solutions just in case a torrential downpour erupts from your eyes. First up, you need an excellent waterproof foundation. If you have a make-up artist, quiz them on their products during your trial. Make sure that the products they are using will stand the test of time. If you’re going DIY, Napoleon Perdis China Doll or Smash Box Camera Ready BB Cream are products that are frequently receiving good reviews online. The best way to find something suitable is to spend a decent hour in your local Melbourne Priceline store sifting through the samples. Take the opportunity to try lots of different coverage’s & colours. Don’t forget about any fake tan that you might be using on the day (a good bet is to go 2-3 shades darker if getting a medium – dark tan) but always remember to actually try the tan with the makeup girls. Leave nothing to chance.
The other necessities? Waterproof mascara (duh), waterproof concealer, a decent waterproof tattoo pen for those brows (brows can sweat too) and a lip stain or crayon is best for staying power. Oh and don’t forget the dry shampoo. A hot wedding day can wreak havoc on your roots.
Ahh, the age-old debate. Should you wear a train on your wedding day?
It’s a tough call really. On one hand you have this pre-existing belief that in order to feel like a princess on your special day, you have to indulge in that extra length. Is there ever going to be another time in your life that you will be able to wear something so extravagant? On the other though, you have to think about the obstacles that you’re going to face on your big day.
A wedding dress that has a bit of length has nothing on a full train. Are you going to be walking up and down stairs? How are you going to ensure a picture perfect finish at the end of the aisle? Do you have a fabulous made of honour that is prepared to pick up your train at your every beck and call? Are you honestly prepared for the trek through dirt, mud and grass, and what it could possibly to do your dress? Are you going to be able to join in on the dance floor without getting pulled back if Uncle Sam accidentally mistakes your train for the dance floor?
These are all the questions that you have to ask yourself when choosing what features your dress will have. If you want the best of both worlds, most bridal boutiques in Melbourne will have detachable trains that you can wear during your ceremony but remove during your wedding reception. This gives you a great opportunity to showcase a completely different dress. Some bridal boutiques will also have accessories that you can utilise to transform a dress such as a sash or fabric belt that will add to the surprise when you walk into the room looking like a completely different bride.
Having a detachable train is probably the most practical decision you can make if you’re torn between your fairy-tale dress and reason. So ladies, what lesson have we now learnt? It’s your wedding day and you’ll wear the dress of your dreams you want to.